지은이: 부성현, 부경아, 양성희
일반적인 학생들이 떠나는 유학과는 거리가 먼 명문대 입학 성공기가 아닌 조금은 평범한 유학 가정의 생활을 담은 책으로, 나이와 사회적 위치가 다른 가족 구성원 세 사람의 눈을 통해 미국 아이들의 학교생활과 교육 전반에 관한 정보와 생활의 이야기들을 생생하게 전하고 있다.
Translation: “Study Abroad Success Project of a Daring Family"
A family autobiography and a self-help memoir about a Korean-American family and their journey and adventures facing and overcoming cultural obstacles in a foreign country. Stories and advice on how to adjust to an American high school, learn English as a second language and fit into a new community. Primary readership audience were Korean students and parents contemplating immigration to a foreign country.
지난 5-10년부터 2021년이란 시간동안 한국의 자살률은 세계 최고 수준입니다. OECD 국가 간 자살률을 비교 시 OECD 평균 10.9명에 비해, 한국은 23.5명(2020년 기준)으로 가장 높은 수준을 기록했다고 합니다. 한국의 자살은 10대부터 30대까지 사망원인 순위 1위이고, 40대, 50대에서는 사망원인 순위 2위를 차지했습니다. 저의 친누나는 2005년 심한 우울증을 겪은 뒤 20살의 나이에 대학교 기숙사에서 자결하였고 저는 지난 15년간 누나에게 왜 그런 일이 있어야만 했는지를 알아내기 위해서 우울증의 진리에 대해서 탐구했습니다. 이 책안에서 누나의 개인적인 사정과 정신세계뿐만 아니라 우울증에 취약하신 분들에게 쉽게 일어나는 부정적인 반추 (negative rumination) 와 반복적인 부정적인 사고에 대해서 분석했고 우울증이 일어나는 복합적이고 다차원적인 원인, 그리고 장래의 해결책으로서 사회적으로 그리고 개인적으로 할 수 있는 습관들이 무엇인지를 추천해보았습니다. 이 책을 장래의 한국의 청년들을 위해서 바칩니다.
I. 우리를 해치는 내적 대화의 종류 Chapter 1 – “난 왜 이렇게 부족할까?” (I am not good enough) Chapter 2 - “난 왜 이렇게 못생기고 매력이 없을까?” (I am so ugly and unattractive) Chapter 3 – “난 왜 이렇게 뒤처졌을까?” (I am so behind compard to others) Chapter 4 – “아, 내가 왜 그랬을까” (I shouldn’t have done that) Chapter 5 – “난 항상 완벽해야 돼” (I must always be perfect) Chapter 6 – “난 아무것도 못하는 사람이야" (I am a total failure) II. 부정적인 내적 대화의 원인 Chapter 7 – 우리의 두뇌 Chapter 8 – 우리의 두뇌 (파트 2) Chapter 9 – 사회적 가치관과 문화의 영향 Chapter 10 – 주변 사람들과 가족, 친구의 영향 Chapter 11 – 어린 시절 때 배운 사고방식 Chapter 12 – 우리의 자기 정체성과 자기 개념 III. 내적 대화와 우울증에 대처하는 방법 Chapter 13 – 우울증 처방 및 이해도의 현재 상태 Chapter 14 – 현재 의식 (現在意識) Chapter 15 – 우울증의 하향나선 (downward spiral) Chapter 16 – 부족의 심리와 감사의 힘 Chapter 17 – 사회의 위에서 아래로, 사회의 아래에서 위로 (Top Down, Bottom Up) Chapter 18 – “한가한 두뇌는 악마의 작업실이다" Chapter 19 – 믿음의 힘과 우울증의 관계
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A non-fiction memoir and a self-help psychology book dedicated to the author's older sister who suffered from major depression. This book goes into the types of thought patterns (comparison thinking, catastrophizing, negative self-talk, perfectionism) that may cause obsessive, harmful overthinking known as 'rumination' which has proven to be a major precursor to depression. It also discusses possible solutions at both individual and societal levels, and why we need to address issues such as status-obsession on social media and our society's skewed definition of the word 'success.'
Depression and suicide are becoming more prevalent than ever before. In the U.S, suicide rates among young adults have reached their highest point in nearly two decades and are at their highest level since 2000, according to the U.S. News & World Report in 2019. South Korea now leads the OECD world rankings with the highest suicide rate, and Korean celebrities and politicians frequently commit suicide from reasons cited around shame, social pressure, cyberbullying and poor self-image.
For the last 13 years, I've pondered and researched the causes that might have led to my sister's depression and eventual suicide. By reading the diaries she let behind, I was able to gain a better glimpse into her inner world and internal struggles that led to her having low self-esteem, eating disorders and frequent rumination. I do not point the fingers at any one person or one single problem, and I definitely do not claim to have solved the great puzzle to understanding all sub-categories of depression. What this book will clarify is that depression is a multifaceted global issue that has possible causes at both individual and community levels, and we must better define, identify and understand the underlying causes depression so that we can create a much more targeted, specific and integrated system of treatment for those suffering from it.
The first section of the book goes into the kinds of negative mental habits and repetitive stories that people at risk for major depression commonly engage in. The second section covers some of the major influences on our mental narrative and thought patterns that cause the mental habits mentioned from the first section. The third and final section brainstorms different ideas on how we can improve the status quo and covers the latest findings from academia and research to treat and prevent depression.
"There’s so much we can do [in order to advance mental health treatments for patients with depression]. We have figured some important things out, but we are definitely in need of more answers. We have yet to understand what truly works for depression as well as how to communicate that to others. I strongly support individuals like Terry who take the initiative to get the right messages out there. Although there is a lot of suffering in the world, if we continue to push forward and ask the right questions, as Terry has done in his book, I believe we will eventually find our way to a world with less suffering. A meaningful book to share with the world. Thank you Terry." - Dr. Chad Ebesutani, Ph.D (Clinic Director & Licensed Psychologist at Seoul Counseling Center, Professor, Dept. of Psychology at Duksung Women's University)
There is a societal pattern happening globally beyond just a random "chemical imbalance in the brain." There's much bigger forces at work that need to be resolved in order to truly treat this epidemic. Our lack of understanding has to be resolved when it comes to depression.
Table of Contents 3 I: Observing Our Mind’s Stories 13 Chapter 1: “I am not good enough” 14 Chapter 2: “I am so ugly and unattractive” 18 Chapter 3: “I am so behind compared to others” 21 Chapter 4: “I should have, I would have, I could have” 25 Chapter 5: “I must always be perfect” 28 Chapter 6: “I am a total failure” 31 II: What Creates Our Mind’s Stories 35 Chapter 7: Our Brain (Part I) 35 Chapter 8: Our Brain (Part II) 41 Chapter 9: Culture 45 Chapter 10: People Around You 53 Chapter 11: Childhood Conditioning 58 Chapter 12: Your Self-Identity 67 III: Taking Control of Our Mind’s Stories 70 Chapter 13: The Current State of Depression Treatment and Understanding 71 Chapter 14: Awareness and Presence 79 Chapter 15: Downward Spiral, Upward Spiral 83 Chapter 16: The Power of Appreciation 87 Chapter 17: Top-Down, Bottom-Up 93 Chapter 18: "An Idle Mind is the Devil's Workshop" 97 Chapter 19: Faith, Spirituality and My Testimony 100 Dear Asian Parents 107 Epilogue 111 Acknowledgements 116 A Letter to Korean Readers 117 About the Author 120 References 121