Books are amazing

I’ve realized recently that books are a real amazing way for us to get on the same brain wavelength as some of the greatest minds that have ever evolved and lived in this world. Autobiographies are especially great but fiction writers are just as good.

As we tap into their consciousness, we can glean and absorb all sorts of (not just knowledge) … spiritual consciousness. Their love. Even their passions. Their interests. Their unique sense of humor. Their tastes. Their left brain and right brain. The way they say things is a real great way for us to learn to be like them, think like them. The way they order phrases and sentences, even, is a huge boon for our mind. I guess that’s why we always love quotes from famous people as well. Things that buddha said, jesus said, albert einstein etc … we get a glimpse into the extraordinary brain wave that existed when they were alive.

I’ve been realizing that good writing cannot come from a “bad” consciousness. Meaning unless he/she works on themselves mentally, physically, spiritually, good writing just cannot (it is impossible) to be born that actually touches people in a major way. I feel that I’ve tried myself. When I drink too much alcohol or don’t take care of myself, or am lacking discipline in some area of my life, it shows in my writing. It’s not as fluid, not as strong. I can’t get a grip on what I’m trying to say. But when I have a good handle on my spiritual life, it really just flows, I believe, from the Spirit.

Perhaps same with voice, speaking voice, singing voice. Usually a voice, and the power that comes from a voice, is a reflection of their inner strength and spirit as well …

P.S.

Elon Musk better keep working on NeuraLink … so that we can eventually “download” and “upload” brains into our collective internet! ๐Ÿ™‚ that would be cool.

Colors of the Wind

my fav song! lyrics are beautiful.

How high does the sycamore grow

if you cut it down, you will never know.

we need to sing with all the voices of the mountain.

we need to paint with all the colors of the wind.

whether we are white or copper-skinned

you can own the earth and still

all you will own is earth until

you can paint with the colors

of the wind

์ Š์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์น˜๋Š” ์ผ

๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ๋Š” ๋ณ„๋กœ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ง€๋„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ์ „ํ˜€ ์—†์—ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋„ ์ด์ œ ์ฒญ๋…„์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋†’์•„์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์น˜๊ณ  ์–ด๋–ค ํŠน์ •๋œ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์ง€๋„ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ๋‚˜์ด๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋ณด๋ฉด ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๋น„ํŒ์ ์ธ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋งŽ์ด ๋“ ๋‹ค. (ํ˜„์žฌ์˜ 40๋Œ€, 50๋Œ€, 60๋Œ€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค). ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ฐ•์š”๋ฅผ ํ•ด์„œ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šธ ๋•Œ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ๋‹ค. ๊ทผ๊ฑฐ๊ฐ€ ๋ณ„๋กœ ์—†๋‹ค. ์ž๊ธฐ์˜ ํ–‰๋™์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ์ผ์„ ์„ฑ์ทจํ•จ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ๋กค๋ชจ๋ธ์ด ๋˜๋ ค๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ํ•˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๋ง๋กœ๋งŒ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•œ๋‹ค. “์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•ด๋ผ.” “์ €๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•ด๋ผ.” “์ง„๋ฆฌ๋ž€ ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด๋‹ค.” “์ž๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ผ” ๊ณ  ๋ง๋งŒ ํ•˜์ง€ ์ •๋‹นํ•œ ์ด์œ ๋ฅผ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค.

์ •๋ง ๋™๋“ฑํ•œ ์‹œ์ ์—์„œ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•ด์ฃผ์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์ข‹๊ฒ ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์™œ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ๋˜๋ƒ. ์œ—์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์•„๋žซ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ (๊ผฐ๋Œ€์งˆ์€ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์งˆ๋ฆฐ๋‹ค) ๊ทธ๊ฑธ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•ด์ฃผ๋Š” ์ผ์ด ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋ ค์šธ๊นŒ? ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์ •๋‹นํ•œ ์ด์œ ๊ฐ€ ์—†๊ณ  “๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ฏฟ์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ๋„ˆ๋„ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ฏฟ์–ด๋ผ” ๋ผ๋Š” ํ„ฐ๋ฌด๋‹ˆ์—†๊ณ  ๋น„ํ•ฉ๋ฆฌ์ ์ธ ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ํž˜๋“ค ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‹ค.

์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌํšŒ์  ์œ„์น˜์—์„œ ์ •๋‹นํ•œ ์ด์œ ๋กœ ์กด๊ฒฝ์ด๋‚˜ ์กด๋ง์„ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ผ์ˆ˜๋ก ๋” ๊ผฐ๋Œ€์งˆ์— ๊ณ ์ง‘ํ•œ๋‹ค. “๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ๋„ˆ๋Š” ๋‚˜์˜ ๋ง์— ์ˆœ์ข…ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋” ์ž˜ ์•ˆ๋‹ค.” ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ง๋„ ์•ˆ๋˜๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ์ธ๊ฐ€? ์ œ๊ฐˆ๋Ÿ‰์€ ์œ ๋น„๋ณด๋‹ค 20์‚ด์€ ๋” ์–ด๋ ธ๋‹ค. ์š”์ฆ˜์— entrepreneurship ๊ณผ innovation ์„ ๋‹ด๋‹นํ•˜๋Š” ์„ ๊ตฌ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ Š์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋„ ์ฑ…์„ ์“ธ ๋•Œ๋‚˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์•ž์—์„œ ๋ฌด์–ธ๊ฐ€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„์–ด์•ผ๋  ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋ฉด ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‹์˜ ๊ฐ•์š”๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋Š” ์‹ซ๋‹ค. ๋‘๋ฒˆ์งธ ์“ด ์ฑ…์—์„œ๋„ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ผฐ๋Œ€์งˆ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ƒ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ํŽธ์ง‘์ž์˜ ๋ง์— ์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ด์—ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์ž๊ธฐ์ค‘์‹ฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋ฏฟ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ณ ์ง‘ํ•ด์„œ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ์ผ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค.

์ •๋ง ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์ด ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๊ณ  ์กด๊ฒฝํ•˜๋Š” ๋กค๋ชจ๋ธ๋“ค์€ ๋ง์„ ๊ทธ๋Ÿด์‹ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๋‚˜๋ž‘ ๋ง์„ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ง์„ ํ•œ ์ ์ด ์—†๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์•„์˜ˆ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ํ•œ๋ฒˆ๋„ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์ ์ด ์—†๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํฐ ์šฐ์ƒ์ด ๋œ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ํ–‰๋™์„ ํ†ตํ•ด์„œ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค€๋‹ค. ๋ง์€ ์ ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ  ํ–‰๋™์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด๋‹ค. ์šฉ๊ธฐ. ์„ฑ์ˆ™ํ•จ. ์ง„๋ฆฌ. ์ง€ํ˜œ. ์ธ๋•.

๋ˆ„๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๊ณ  ์ง€๋„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€๋Š” ์•Š๋‹ค. ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋“ค๋ฉด ๋‹ค ๋น„์Šทํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋‹ค ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‚˜์˜ ์ž‘ํ’ˆ์ด๋‚˜ ํ–‰์‹ค์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์šฉ๊ธฐ/๊ธฐ์จ์„ ์–ป๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์ข‹๊ฒ ๋‹ค.

๋งŒ์•ฝ์— ํ•˜๋‚˜ ๋ผ๋„ ์ œ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด … ์ž๊ธฐ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋ฏฟ๊ณ . ์–ด๋ ค์šธ ๋•Œ ํฌ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ . ์ž๊ธฐ์˜ ๊ฟˆ์„ ๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ . ํƒ€์ธ์˜ ์‹œ์„  ์‹ ๊ฒฝ์“ฐ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์ „๋ ฅ์„ ๋‹คํ•ด์„œ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ผ์— ๋„์ „ํ•ด ๋ณด์•„๋ผ. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹๊นŒ.

Carpe Diem ํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ . ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚˜๊ฐ™์ด ๋Š™์–ด ๊ฐ€๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ์ดˆ์›”ํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ . ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์ด ํ•˜๋ผ๋Š” ๋Œ€๋กœ, ๋‚˜์ด๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ํ•˜๋ผ๋Š” ๋Œ€๋กœ. ์ƒ์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๋ผ๋Š” ๋Œ€๋กœ๊ฐ€ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ. ๋‹ค์Œ์˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€๋Š” ๊ทธ ์ „์˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์ดˆ์›”ํ•ด์•ผ ๋œ๋‹ค๊ณ . ๊ผฐ๋Œ€์งˆํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค ๋ณ„๋กœ ์‹ ๊ฒฝ์“ฐ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์ž๊ธฐ๋งŒ์˜ ์ฒ ํ•™์„ ๋ฏฟ์„์ง€๋ผ๋„ “์ง„๋ฆฌ” ๋ฅผ ์ซ’์•„๊ฐ€๋ผ๊ณ . ์ง„๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์Šน๋ฆฌ๋ผ๊ณ .

ํ•œ๊ตญ๋„ ์ ์  ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์ข‹๊ฒ ๋‹ค.

์ง„์ •ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋” (True Leader)

์ง„์ •ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋Š” ํƒ€์ธ, ํ•˜์ธ, ๋ถ€ํ•˜์—๊ฒŒ ๊ถŒ์„ธ, ๋‚˜์ด, ์ง€์œ„๋‚˜ ์šฐ์›”์„ ๋‚ด์„ธ์›Œ์„œ ์ด๋ž˜๋ผ ์ €๋ž˜๋ผ ๋ช…๋ นํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ด๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ๊ผฐ๋Œ€์งˆ, ๊ฐ•์š”๋ฟ์ด๋‹ค. ์ž๊ธฐ์˜ ์˜์ง€๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๊ณ  ์•„๋žซ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ๊ตฌ๋ฐ•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์†Œ๋ฆฌ์ง€๋ฅด๊ณ  ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚ธ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ฒŒ์จ ๋ฆฌ๋”์‹ญ์ด ์—†์Œ์„ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•œ๋‹ค.

I believe a true leader is not somebody who uses their position, authority, some form of superiority or power to order people around to do their bidding.

์ง„์ •ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ตฌ์ง€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์šฐ์›”ํ•จ์„ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ฆ๋ช…ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•„๋„ ๋ฒŒ์จ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์ถ”์ข…ํ•˜๊ณ  ์กด๊ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์–ด์žˆ๋‹ค. ์ง„์ •ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋Š” ๋ฒŒ์จ ๊ทธ ํƒ€์ธ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ต๋ฅ˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ์ „์— ์˜ค๋ž˜์ „์— ๋ฆฌ๋”์˜ ์ธ๊ฒฉ์„ ๊ฐ–์ถ˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‹ค.

A true leader does not have to prove their superiority or explain it even with words. Other people will already have respected and followed that person. A true leader is already a leader before interacting with those below him/her. He/She has already acquired the virtues necessary to become such a leader through years of dedication.

๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ํฌ์ƒ์„ ํ•  ๋งˆ์Œ๊ฐ€์ง, ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ๊ฐ€์ง์ด ์žˆ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ณ  ์ธ์žํ•œ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง๊ณผ ๋™์‹œ์— ๊ฐ•ํ•œ ํž˜์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ (๋ถ€ํ•˜, ํ•˜์ธ, ์•„๋žซ์‚ฌ๋žŒ, ํ›„๋ฐฐ) ์„ ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฐฉ๋ฉด์—์„œ ์ง„์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ฌ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ๊ณผ ๋งˆ์Œ์”จ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ. ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์ด ๋ณ„๋ณผ์ผ์—†๋Š” ์ฐฉํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ๋ฆฌ๋”๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์€ ์—„์ฒญ ์ถœ์ค‘ํ•œ๋ฐ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ํ—Œ์‹ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋„ ๋ฆฌ๋”๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

A true leader must also have strength and fortitude but also the servant-leader mindset, the warmth & willingness to help and understand his/her fellows. Both the ability and the kindness to improve those below him/her in one aspect or another. A nice guy without much strength is not much of a leader. A hot-shot who can do everything but a complete selfish asshole is also a terrible leader.

์ง„์ •ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋Š” ๋ชจ๋‘๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ, ์„ธ์ƒ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ๋ถ„๋ฐœํ•˜๊ณ  ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•˜๊ณ  ํฌ์ƒํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ณธ๋ณด๊ธฐ role model by example ์ด ๋˜์–ด์„œ ์ฃผ๋ณ€์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ inspire ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ทธ ํ–‰๋™์œผ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‹ค. ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ž๊ธฐํ˜ผ์ž์„œ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์ด๋ฃจ์–ด๋‚ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ๋“ค์„ ๋ฆฌ๋”๊ฐ™์€ ์ธ๋ฌผ์ด ์ฝ”์น˜, pioneer, ์น˜์–ด๋ฆฌ๋”, ๋ฉ˜ํ† , ์„ ๋ฐฐ, ๋ชฉ์‚ฌ, ์„ ๊ตฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋˜์–ด์„œ ์ด๋ฃจ๊ฒŒ ๋„์™€์ฃผ๊ณ  ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์šฉ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋จผ์ € ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ. ์•„๋ฌด๋ฆฌ ํž˜๋“ค์–ด๋„ ํฌ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ . ์ผ์ƒ์•ˆ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋ณด๋‹ต, ๋ณด์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์•„๋ฌด๊ฒƒ๋„ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ฒด. ์˜ˆ์ˆ˜์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ. ๋ถ€์ฒ˜์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ. ๊ฐ„๋””์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ. MLK ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ. JFK ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ. Bruce. Steve Jobs. Bill Hicks. Tesla. Einstein. ๊น€๋Œ€์ค‘์”จ. ๋‹ค๋“ค ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์‚ด๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ์ฃฝ์—ˆ๋‹ค.

A true leader works hard every single day and dedicates himself/herself for the good of the world and those around him/her. They lead by example, inspire and help those around them through action. In regards to great feats and challenges that cannot be easily accomplished, these leaders act as coaches, pioneers, mentors, trailblazers and shepherds and show us the possibility of how it can be done by acting with courage, initiating something new. No matter how tough it is, without expecting any reward in return. They all lived like that and died.

Dictatorial ํ•œ insecure ๋ฆฌ๋”๋“ค์€ ํƒ€์ธ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž๊ธฐ์˜ ์˜์ง€๋Œ€๋กœ๋งŒ ํƒ€์ธ ์œ„์— ์„œ์„œ ๋ช…๋ นํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ๋“ค์ง€๋งŒ (“My way or highway!”),

ํ˜„๋ช…ํ•œ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋Š” ๋ชจ๋‘์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ํ˜ธ๊ธฐ์‹ฌ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ๋“ฃ๊ณ , ์•„๋ฌด๋ฆฌ ์–ด๋ฆฌ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‚ฎ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋„ ์ž๊ธฐ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ๊ถŒ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์กด๊ฒฝํ•˜๊ณ  ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ .

์—ด๋ฆฐ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ๋“ฃ๊ณ , ๋„“์€ ๋งˆ์Œ์œผ๋กœ ํฌ์˜นํ•˜๊ณ ,

์ž๊ธฐ์ž์‹ ์ด ํ‹€๋ ธ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ฆ๋ช…๋˜๋ฉด ๊ณผ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฒธ์†ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•˜๊ณ . ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ์ž๊ธฐ์ž์‹ ์„ ์ˆ˜์ •ํ•ด์ฃผ๊ณ  ๊ณ ์ณ์ฃผ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๊ฒฉ๋ คํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ณ ๋งˆ์›Œํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‹ค.

An insecure dictator cannot accept the opinions of others or advice of those around him, instead just tries to steamroll others into submission to make himself/herself feel powerful and better. “Do this or do that or you are fired. My way or the high way.”

A wise leader is the opposite. They listen to all with curiosity. No matter how young or lowly or humble that other person seems to be. He/she respects and honors everyone’s right to have an opinion and express it. They listen with open mind, a warm, understanding mind.

And when it turns out that you were wrong, proven wrong, it is more the occasion to be a leader, more occasion, BEST OCCASION to stand tall and communicate. “I was wrong.” Admit it and apologize humbly and loudly. It is the BEST time to lead by example.

Instead, thank those who correct you and on the contrary, encourage them to keep doing that. “Whew, I was going off the rails! Thanks so much! ๐Ÿ˜‰ ” A leader makes mistakes just the same.

๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์˜ ๋‚˜์˜ ์ž‘์€ ์˜๊ฒฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฆฌ๋”์‹ญ์˜ ์ž์งˆ ์ด ์„ธ์ƒ ๋ชจ๋“  ํ˜•์ œ ์ž๋งค ๋ถ„๋“ค์•ˆ์— ์ž ์žฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ. ์ฃผ๋‹˜๊ป˜์„œ ์•Œ๋งž์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์— ๊ทธ ์ž ์žฌ๋ ฅ์„ ๊นจ์›Œ์ฃผ์‹œ๋ฆฌ๋ผ ๋ฏฟ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

And this Spirit lives and sleeps inside all of you brothers and sisters. And at the appropriate time, God will awaken it so that we can will and act according to God’s good purpose. He awakens the leader in every single one of us!!

CARPE DIEM

The body is a temporarily loaned domicile that houses a Spirit.

The body is a temporarily loaned domicile that houses a Spirit. Once you are able to cleanse and awaken the Spirit with the help of God (and others aka mentors/partners), you become one with the stream of pure consciousness with the universe.

Then you are able to listen to God’s desires for you and act accordingly based on his inspiration, energy and grace and achieve superhuman feats in this world as did many greats who came before us.

All the nameless human beings who used to house this world have been easily turned to dust and forgotten. They ate, slept, mated, and did whatever human beings have been doing since the evolution of apes and then became one with the soil again. It it inevitable, quite necessary for this to happen.

The only ones that remain in the collective consciousness of our history are deservingly the ones who gave up their selfish life for the good of many and pushed forward the level of our existence.


Once we die, it is “time’s up”. We must do all that is possible before the time is up, with the temporary bodies and the genetic potential we are given at that moment in time.

And then we die. And the cycle continues. With every iteration of the human species, there’s people who awaken themselves and sacrifice their lives in order to push human evolution forward. It is our grave responsibility to set aside our selfish desires, achieve pure consciousness and live our lives dedicated to the service of many. 

The concept of “eternal life” might have been more or less a metaphor – where the key to immortality is living a life worth living. If you cleanse your Spirit and achieve the consciousness at the highest level, then you become one, unified and joined with divine universal wisdom. At that point, you cease being just you, whether you are John or Ethan or Tom or Anthony or Kathleen or Jennifer. You start living life as one servant of the Universe, dedicated to the good of all beings on this universe. At that stage, you serve the world as best as you can, and inevitably you die. At the end of that journey, it ceases to matter whether you lived 40 years or 80 years or eternally. As long as the Spirit exists, to help the world, to love all your brothers and sisters, to give up your selfish desires for the good of many … as long as that consciousness keeps flowing and it will as long as the Spirit/Universe/God exist …. then it wouldn’t matter that Terry or Katie or Sunny or Olivia are now dead and separated from their body.

We live in each other’s collective consciousness, and we live fo each other until the End of time. Until the end of time. The Spirit never dies. Nor the collective wisdom of our past. The ones who gave their lives for this iteration and the next – those we thank, and then we pay it forward.

And the cycle continues!

(I hope in the next iteration, we are living with much more abundant love, acceptance, wisdom, compassion and patience in our hearts! Carpe Diem)

P.S.

To die a glorious death for the service of many is much better than having lived out your human life-span over 90 years and dying painfully of some natural cause or cancer. What good would it be for me to take up more food as a dying old man.

P.S2

Don’t leave any regrets! ๐Ÿ™‚ We are going to die anyways. And that’s kinda liberating.

๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ

์ด์ œ ์ข€ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด 30๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ํ›… ์ง€๋‚˜๊ณ  ์ Š์–ด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ž€ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์–ธ์ œ๊นŒ์ง€๋งŒ ์ Š์„ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์•˜๋Š”๋ฐ ์š”์ฆ˜์— ๊ฑฐ์šธ์„ ๋ณด๋˜์ง€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ํšŒ์‚ฌ์— ๋“ค์–ด์˜ค๋Š” ์‹ ์ž…์‚ฌ์›๋“ค์˜ ์–ผ๊ตด์„ ๋ณด๋ฉด ์ œ ์ž์‹ ์ด ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋“ค์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋Š๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค

ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋”ฑํžˆ ์˜ˆ์ƒํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋ณด๋‹ค terrible ํ•˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์€ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌผ๋ก  ์žƒ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋„ ๋งŽ์ง€๋งŒ (์–ด๋ฆฐ ์™ธ๋ชจ, ์šด๋™์‹ ๊ฒฝ, ๋ฉ”ํƒ€๋ณผ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์ด๋ผ๋˜์ง€, ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ์‚ฌ๊ท€์—ˆ๋˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์ด๋ผ๋˜์ง€, ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ๋งŽ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ๋˜ ์ž์œ ์‹œ๊ฐ„๋“ฑ๋“ฑ) …. ๊ทธ ๋Œ€์‹ ์— ์–ป๋Š” ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๊ตํ™˜์ด ์ด๋ฃจ์–ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋Š๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฑํžˆ ๋‚˜์˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ •์‹ ์ ์ธ ์„ฑ์žฅ. ์˜์ ์ธ ์„ฑ์žฅ. ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋‹ค์Œ์„ธ๋Œ€์— ๋ฌผ๋ ค์ฃผ์–ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋‹ค์Œ ์„ธ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์ €ํฌ๋“ค์˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€๋ณด๋‹ค ๋‚˜์•„์ง€๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ.

์•ฝ๊ฐ„ ์š•์‹ฌ์€ ๋‚จ์•„์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘์ Š์—ˆ์„ ๋•Œ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋งค์ผ๋งค์ผ ๋›ธ๊ฑฐ์•ผ!’ ’10๋…„์ „์— ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋งŒํผ ์•„๋ น์„ ๋“ค๊ฑฐ์•ผ!’ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์š•์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ ์šด๋™์„ ํ•˜๊ณ ๋ณด๋ฉด ์š”์ฆ˜์— ๋ชธ์ด ๊ณ ์žฅ์ด ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋Š๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์•ž์œผ๋กœ๋„ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋‚ด๋ ค๋†“๊ณ  let go ํ•ด์•ผ๋  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ๋™์•ˆ ๋‚ด๋ ค๋†“์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์ด ๋งŽ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์™„๋ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚˜์ด๋Š” ์ „ํ˜€ ์ƒ๊ด€์ด ์—†๋‹ค ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋น„ํ˜„์‹ค์ ์ธ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚จ์•„์žˆ๋Š” ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ์ž˜ ์“ฐ๋„๋ก ์•ฝ์†ํ•˜๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ฃผ๋‹˜์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ. ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ํ˜•์ œ ์ž๋งค ๋ถ„๋“ค์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ.

์˜ค๋Š˜๋„ carpe diem. ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋“œ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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์‚ฌํšŒ์  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™” (Culture)์˜ ์˜ํ–ฅ

       2019 ๋…„ 4์›”, ์ธ๋„์˜ ํ…”๋ž‘๊ฐ€๋‚˜ ์ฃผ์—์„œ ์Šค๋ฌด ๋ช…์˜ ์ธ๋„ ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์ด ๊ตญ๊ฐ€๊ณ ์‹œ์—์„œ ๋‚˜์œ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•„ ์ž์‚ด์„ ํ•œ ๋น„๊ทน์ ์ธ ์‚ฌ๊ฑด์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 15 โ€˜์‹œ๋ฆฌ์ƒค’๋ผ๋Š” ์ด๋ฆ„์˜ ํ•™์ƒ์€ ์‹ญ๋Œ€์˜ ์†Œ๋…€์˜€๋Š”๋ฐ ์ƒ๋ฌผํ•™ ์‹œํ—˜์—์„œ ๋‚ฎ์€ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์€ ํ›„์—, ์ง‘์—์„œ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์ด ์™ธ์ถœ์„ ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ ธ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ์„ ์งˆ๋Ÿฌ ์ž์‚ด ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ์‚ฌ๊ฑด์ด ๋๋‚œ ๋’ค ์กฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ•ด๋ณธ ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์˜ ์‹œํ—˜์ง€์— ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋งค๊ธฐ๋Š” ์‹œํ—˜ ์†Œํ”„ํŠธ์›จ์–ด ์•ˆ์— ์˜ค๋ฅ˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์–ด์„œ ์ •ํ™•ํ•œ ์ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ๊ณ„์‚ฐ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐํ˜€์กŒ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ •๋ง ๋”์ฐํ•œ ๋น„๊ทน์ด์ž ๋ถˆ์šด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฒฝ์•„ ๋ˆ„๋‚˜๊ฐ€ ๋Œ€ํ•™๊ต ๋•Œ ์ค‘๊ฐ„๊ณ ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋ณธ ํ›„์— ๋‚™์‹ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์‚ดํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ธฐ์–ต์„ ์ƒ๊ธฐ์‹œ์ผฐ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ•™์—… ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค์™€ ๊ต์œก ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ์ด ์‹ฌํ•œ ํŠนํžˆ ๋™์–‘์˜ ๋‚˜๋ผ๋“ค์—์„œ ์ž์‚ด์ด ๋” ํ”ํ•ด์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ธ๋„๋Š” ํ•œ๊ตญ๊ณผ ๋น„์Šทํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์€ ๋Œ€ํ•™๊ต์— ์ž…ํ•™ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์ค‘๊ณ ๋“ฑํ•™๊ต์˜ ์„ฑ์ ๊ณผ ์ˆ˜๋Šฅ์˜ ์ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ช…๋ฌธ ๋Œ€ํ•™๊ต์˜ ํ•™๋ ฅ์ด ์žฅ๋ž˜์˜ ์ทจ์—…๋ฅ ์— ๊ฐ•ํ•œ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์นฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ด์œ  ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ˆ˜๋Šฅ ์ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ์ƒ์‚ฌ์˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋˜์—ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋™์–‘ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ์ƒ์†Œํ•œ ์„œ์–‘์ธ๋“ค์€ ๋„๋Œ€์ฒด ์™œ ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์ด ์‹œํ—˜ ์ ์ˆ˜ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ทธ ์ •๋„๋กœ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•„ ์ž์‚ด์„ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์น˜์—ดํ•œ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ ์‚ฌํšŒ์— ์ต์ˆ™ํ•œ ํ•œ๊ตญ์ธ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋“ค์€ ์–ด๋Š ์ •๋„ ์ดํ•ดํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹จ ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ํƒ“์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์‚ฌํšŒ ์ „์ฒด์˜ โ€˜๋ฌธํ™”’ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ํ˜„์ƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

15 Nagaraja, Gali. (2019, April 25). โ€œ19 Telangana students commit suicide in a week after  โ€˜goof-upsโ€™ in intermediate exam results; parents blame software firm.โ€ Firstpost, www. firstpost.com/india/19-telangana-students-commit-suicide-in-a-week-after-goof-ups in-intermediate-exam-results-parents-blame-software-firm-6518571.html.

       ํ•œ๊ตญ์„ ์˜ˆ๋กœ ๋“ค์–ด๋ณด๋ฉด ์ธ๋„๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ์‹ฌ๊ฐํ•œ ์ƒํƒœ์— ์žˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ๊ตญ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”๋Š” ์ง€๋‚œ 50๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์†๋„๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•œ ๊ฒฝ์ œ ๋•๋ถ„์— ๊ฑฐ๋“ญ ๋ณ€ํ™”ํ•˜์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ์•„์‹œ๋‹ค์‹œํ”ผ ์ง€๋‚œ 20๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ๋†€๋ผ์šธ ์ˆซ์ž์˜ ์—ฐ์˜ˆ์ธ, ์ •์น˜์ธ ํ˜น์€ ์œ ๋ช…์ธ๋“ค์ด ์šฐ์šธ์ฆ์— ๊ฑธ๋ ค์„œ ์ž์‚ด์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ํ˜„์ƒ์ด ๊ฒฝ์ œ๋ฐœ์ „๊ณผ ๋น„์Šทํ•œ ์†๋„๋กœ ์ƒ์Šนํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ•๋‚จ์— ์œ„์น˜ํ•œ ์„œ์šธ ์นด์šด์Šฌ๋ง ์„ผํ„ฐ์˜ CEO ์ด์ž ๋‹ด๋‹น ์ •์‹ ๊ณผ ์˜์‚ฌ์ด์‹  Chad Ebesutani ์”จ๋Š” โ€œํ•œ๊ตญ์ธ ์‚ฌํšŒ ์•ˆ์˜ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์•„์ฃผ ๋ช…๋ฐฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์ปค๋‹ค๋ž€ ์‚ฌํšŒ์ ์ธ ์••๋ฐ•์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ ์••๋ฐ•์€ ์„ฑ๊ณต์„ ํ•ด์•ผ ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ์„ฑ๊ณต์˜ ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๋‘˜๋Ÿฌ์‹ธ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค (Thereโ€™s a very  clear societal pressure on South Koreans, especially young adults,  based around a really high, unidimensional focus on one definition of success)โ€ ๊ณ   ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 16 Watkins, James & Ebesutani, Chad. (2018, February 9). โ€œSouth Koreaโ€™s mental health  problem โ€” that Koreans donโ€™t admit.โ€ OZY. Retrieved from

 https://www.ozy.com/acumen/south-koreas-mental-health-problem-that-koreans-dont admit/83629.

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์œ„์˜ ์‚ฌ์ง„์€ ์ง€๋‚œ 20๋…„๊ฐ„ ์ž์‚ด์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ๋ชฉ์ˆจ์„ ์žƒ์€ ์—ฐ๊ธฐ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ, ์—ฐ์˜ˆ์ธ, ๋ฎค์ง€์…˜ ๋“ฑ์„ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ์œ ๋ช…์ธ๋“ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ํ”„์—‘์Šค์˜ ์„ค๋ฆฌ(2019๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ์นด๋ผ์˜ ๊ตฌํ•˜๋ผ (2019๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ์ƒค์ด๋‹ˆ์˜ ์ข…ํ˜„ (2017๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ์—ฌ๋ฐฐ์šฐ ์ตœ์ง„์‹ค (2008๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง) ๊ณผ ์•ผ๊ตฌ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์กฐ์„ฑ๋ฏผ (2013๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง),  ๋ฐฐ์šฐ ๋ฐ•์šฉํ•˜ (2010๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ๋ฐฐ์šฐ ์ด์€์ฃผ (2005๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ๋ฐฐ์šฐ ์ •๋‹ค๋นˆ (2007๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ๊ฐ€์ˆ˜ ์œ ๋‹ˆ (2007๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ๋ชจ๋ธ ๊น€๋‹ค์šธ (2009๋…„ ์‚ฌ๋ง), ๊ทธ ์™ธ์— ๋งŽ์€ ์—ฐ์˜ˆ์ธ๋“ค์ด ์ž์‚ด๋กœ ์ƒ์„ ๋งˆ๊ฐํ•˜์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋งŽ์€ ํ•œ๊ตญ์ธ๋“ค์ด ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋“ค์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ์ด์œ ๊ฐ€ ์ž‘์€ ๋‚˜๋ผ ์•ˆ์—์„œ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ์‹ฌํ•œ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ๋ฅ ๊ณผ ์„ฑ๊ณต์— ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋ฌธํ™” ์•ˆ์—์„œ ๋‚˜์˜จ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„  ์–ด๋Š ์ •๋„ ์ง์ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์€ ์‚ฌ์ถ˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ“ ์ง€๋‚œ ์‹œ๊ธฐ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์œ ๋ช…ํ•œ ํ•™๊ต์— ์ž…ํ•™ํ•˜์—ฌ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์œ ๋ช…ํ•œ ๊ณณ์—์„œ ์ทจ์—…์„ ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํฐ ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ์Ÿ์ทจํ•ด์„œ ๋ถ€์ž๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํฐ ์Šน๋ฆฌ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์„ ์ฃผ์œ„์˜ ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์œผ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ํก์ˆ˜ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋Š” ๊ฐ€์กฑ, ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค, ์‚ฌํšŒ, ์˜ํ™”, ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „์ด๋‚˜ ์ธํ„ฐ๋„ท์˜ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด์„œ ๋ฐ˜๋ณต๋˜๊ณ  ์ด โ€œ์„ฑ๊ณต”์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ค‘์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๋น„๋šค์–ด์ง„ ์ด๋ฏธ์ง€๊ฐ€ ์ฐฝ์กฐ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด โ€œ์„ฑ๊ณต”์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด์˜ ์ด๋ฏธ์ง€ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ทธ ์ด๋ฏธ์ง€๋ฅผ ์™„๋ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ถฉ์กฑํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ์ €ํ‰๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ›์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. โ€œ์„ฑ๊ณต์€ X๋ผ๋Š” ๊ณณ์— ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ ๋„ˆ๋Š” ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋” ๋’ค๋–จ์–ด์ง„ Y๋ผ๋Š” ๊ณณ์— ์žˆ๋‹ค. ๋„ˆ๋Š” X๋ฅผ ์„ฑ์ทจํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ํ•œ ๋ถ€์กฑํ•˜๋‹ค”๋ผ๋Š” ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌํšŒ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ํก์ˆ˜ ๋ฐ›๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌ๊ณ ๋ฐฉ์‹์€ ์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๊ณตํ‰ํ•˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š๊ณ  ์ง€์† ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‹œ๋ฏผ์ด ์™„๋ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์„ฑ์ทจํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ๋ถˆ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•˜๊ธฐ๊นŒ์ง€ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋Š ์ •๋„ ์‚ถ์˜ ๊ธฐ์ค€์—์„œ ๋งŒ์กฑํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ๋น„ํ˜„์‹ค์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋†’์€ ์„ฑ์ทจ์™€ ๋ถ€๊ท€์˜ํ™”์—๋งŒ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋‘๋‡Œ์™€ ๋‚ด์  ๋Œ€ํ™”๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋‘˜๋Ÿฌ์‹ธ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ํ™˜๊ฒฝ๊ณผ ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ํ๋ฆ„์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ํฌ๊ฒŒ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฐ›๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ˜„์ƒ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ํ•œ๊ตญ ๋ฟ๋งŒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์ผ๋ณธ, ์ธ๋„, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์–ด๋Š ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ๋‚˜ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ๋‚˜๋ผ ์•ˆ์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋ผ๋ฆฌ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฏฟ์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋“ค์˜ ์ผ์ƒ์ƒํ™œ์„ ํฌ์œ„ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๊ณ  ์˜ํ™”, ๋ฐฉ์†ก, ๊ด‘๊ณ , ๊ต๊ณผ์„œ, ์†Œ์…œ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด, ๋Œ€ํ™”, ์‹ ๋ฌธ, ์žก์ง€, ํฌ์Šคํ„ฐ ๋“ฑ์„ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๊ฐ๋„์—์„œ ๋งค์ผ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์Ÿ์•„์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์•Œ์ง€๋„ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์˜์‹์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฌด์—‡์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ฌด์—‡์ด ์˜ˆ์˜๊ณ  ๋ฌด์—‡์ด ์˜ณ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋ฆ‡๋๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ํ˜๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜์˜ค๋Š” ์ •๋ณด์˜ ํ๋ฆ„ ์†์—์„œ ํก์ˆ˜ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ˜๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜์˜ค๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ์˜ํ–ฅ ์†์— โ€œ๋„ˆ๋Š” ์ข‹์€ ์‹œํ—˜ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ์—” ์ข‹์€ ์ง์—…์„ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๊ณ , ์ข‹์€ ๋Œ€ํ•™๊ต์— ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์•Š๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ข‹์€ ์ง์—…์„ ๊ฐ–์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋ฉด ์ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์‹คํŒจ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋œ๋‹ค” ๊ฐ™์€ ํŽธ๊ฒฌ์„ ์ฐจ์ธฐ ํก์ˆ˜ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋ฉด ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋‚ด์  ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์น˜๋ช…์ ์ธ ๋…์— ๊ฑธ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋น„์Šทํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹œํ—˜์„ ๋ง์ณ์„œ ์ž์‚ด์„ ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์†Œ๋…„ ์†Œ๋…€๋“ค์€ ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ˜„์ƒ์„ ํ†ตํ•ด์„œ ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋ฅผ ํก์ˆ˜ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์‚ด์„ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹๊นŒ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ถ”์ธกํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌผ๋ก  ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ €์˜ ์ž‘์€ ์˜๊ฒฌ์— ๋ถˆ๊ณผํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋…ผ๋ฆฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ดค์„ ๋•Œ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งŽ์€ ์ˆซ์ž์˜ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์ด ์™œ ์‹œํ—˜ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ์ƒ์‚ฌ์˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋กœ ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์„๊นŒ ๋ผ๋Š” ์ ์„ ๊ณ„์† ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•˜๋‹ค ๋ณด๋ฉด ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ ๋ช…์˜ ์œ ๋ณ„๋‚œ ์ผ€์ด์Šค๋‚˜ ํŠน์ •ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚œ ๊ณ ๋ฆฝ๋œ ์ž์‚ด์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์‹œํ—˜ ์ ์ˆ˜ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋‹ค์ˆ˜์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ž์‚ดํ•˜๋Š” ํŒจํ„ด์ด ํ•œ๊ตญ, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ, ์ธ๋„๋ฅผ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ๋งŽ์€ ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณด๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์•„์ง ๋ช…๋ฐฑํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ ์–ด๋–ค ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ํŒจํ„ด์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

       ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ์ž ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์™€ ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋‚ด์  ๋Œ€ํ™”์— ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ํฐ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์น  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•„์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ •์‹ ์„ธ๊ณ„๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด๋‚ด๋Š” ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „, ์†Œ์…œ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด, ๊ด‘๊ณ , ์˜ํ™” ๋“ฑ์˜ ๊ฐ•๋ ฅํ•˜๊ณ  ๋งคํ˜น์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์ธํ•ด์„œ ์•…ํ™”๋  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ณ  ์šฐ์šธ์ฆ์— ๋” ์ทจ์•ฝํ•ด์งˆ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž๊ธฐ ์ž์‹ ์ด ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์™€ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๊ฐ๊ด€์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ถ„์„ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๋ฐฐ์›Œ์™”๋˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์„  ๋‹ค์‹œ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•ด ๋ณด๋Š” ์ผ์€ ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ์‰ฝ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ๊ตญ๊ฐ™์ด ์œ ๊ต์‚ฌ์ƒ์„ ์˜›๋‚ ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๋Œ€๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ฌผ๋ ค๋ฐ›์€ ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ Š์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์ด๋‚˜ ์ „ํ†ต์ ์ธ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„œ ๋น„ํŒ์ ์ด๊ธฐ ํž˜๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์šฐ์šธ์ฆ๊ณผ ์ž์‚ด๋ฅ ์˜ ๋นˆ๋„๊ฐ€ ์ƒ์Šนํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์œ„๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ํž˜๋“  ๊ณผ์ œ์— ๋„์ „ํ•ด์•ผ ๋  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์ด ๋ฌธ์ œ๋ฅผ ์ผ์œผํ‚ฌ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์„ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์˜ˆ๋Š” ๋™์–‘์ธ๊ณ„ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ (Asian-American)  ์ธ๊ตฌ์—์„œ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง€๋‚œ ์ˆ˜์‹ญ ๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ์žฌ๋ฏธ๊ตํฌ ์ธ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ๋™์–‘์ธ๊ณ„ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ๋Š” โ€œ์„ฑ๊ณต” ์„ ์Ÿ์ทจํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ํ•˜๋ฒ„๋“œ๋‚˜ ์˜ˆ์ผ ๊ฐ™์€ ์•„์ด๋น„๋ฆฌ๊ทธ ๋Œ€ํ•™๊ต์— ์ž…ํ•™ํ•˜์—ฌ ์˜์‚ฌ ํ˜น์€ ๋ณ€ํ˜ธ์‚ฌ๊ฐ™์ด ๋ช…์˜ˆ ๋†’์€ ์ง์—…์„ ์–ป์–ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ณ ์ •๊ด€๋…์— ๋‘˜๋Ÿฌ์‹ธ์—ฌ ์‚ด์•„์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ํ•™๊ต์— ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ์„ ๋งŽ์ด ๋ฒŒ์–ด์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ด๋ฆ„์žˆ๋Š” ์ง์—…์„ ์–ป๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋น„์‹ผ ์ž๋™์ฐจ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์„œ ์ž˜ ๋จน๊ณ  ์ž˜ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด โ€œ์„ฑ๊ณต”์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ด๊ณณ์˜ ์‚ฌํšŒ๋Š” ๋งํ•ด์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ณผ์—ฐ ์ฐจ์„ธ๋Œ€์˜ ์•„์ด๋“ค๊ณผ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ  ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋Š” ์กฐ์–ธ์ผ๊นŒ์š”? ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ œํ•œ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ๋Š” ์„ฑ๊ณต์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์€ ์•„์ด๋“ค์˜ ์‹œ์•ผ๋ฅผ ์ข๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ณ  ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์˜ ์‹œ์„ ์„ ๊ทธ์ € ๋ถ€๊ท€์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ˆ„๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค ์•ž์—์„œ ๋ฝ๋‚ด๋Š” ์‚ถ์— ์ง‘์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ธ๋‚ด, ์‚ฌํšŒ๋ฐœ์ „, ๋„๋•, ํฌ์ƒ, ๋ด‰์‚ฌ, ์ •์‹ ๊ฑด๊ฐ• ๋“ฑ์˜ ํ€„๋ฆฌํ‹ฐ๋“ค์€ ์ „ํ˜€ ๊ฐ•์กฐ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ทธ์ € ํ•™๊ต์™€ ์ง์žฅ์˜ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ์—์„œ ์Šน๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์Ÿ์ทจํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ์–•์€ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์ด ์•„์ด๋“ค์˜ ๋‘๋‡Œ ์•ˆ์— ๋“ค์–ด์˜ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋ฉด ์–ด๋ฆฐ์ด๋“ค๋„ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ๊ณผ ์„ฑ์ทจ์—๋งŒ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๊ณ  ์„ฑ์ ์ด ์กฐ๊ธˆ ์ข‹์œผ๋ฉด ๋งŒ์กฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์กฐ๊ธˆ์ด๋ผ๋„ ๋’ค์ฒ˜์ง€๋ฉด ๋‚™์‹ฌํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์‹œ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ฃฝ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ทน๋‹จ์ ์ธ ์™„๋ฒฝ์ฃผ์˜์ž์˜ ์ •์‹ ์ƒํƒœ๋กœ ๋ฒˆ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

       ์ €๋Š” ์ด ์„ฑ๊ณต์˜ ์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ์™„์ „ํžˆ ํ‹€๋ ธ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ฃผ์žฅํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์‚ฌ๋‚˜ ๋ณ€ํ˜ธ์‚ฌ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ์ง์—…์€ ํ˜„๋Œ€์‚ฌํšŒ ์•ˆ์—์„œ ๊ผญ ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ  ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ง์—…์„ ๊ฐ–๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋‚˜๊ธด ์„ธ์›”์˜ ๊ณต๋ถ€์™€ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ๊ณผ ํฌ์ƒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํž˜๋“  ์„ธ์›”์„ ๊ฑฐ์น˜๊ณ  ์กธ์—…์„ ํ•˜๋ฉด ์ข‹์€ ์ˆ˜์ž…์„ ์–ป์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋งŽ์€ ํ˜œํƒ์„ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์„ ํƒ์„ ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜์‹ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜„๋Œ€์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ๋…๋ฆฝํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์ข‹์€ ์ˆ˜์ž…์€ ํ•„์ˆ˜์ด๊ณ  ๋งŒ์•ฝ์— ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋ฉด ์‚ถ์€ ๊ถํ•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์—ฌ์œ ๊ฐ€ ์—†๊ณ  ์˜์กด์ ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€๋Š” ์˜›๋‚ ์— ๊ฐ€๋‚œ์„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ–ˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ชจ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋‚˜ ํ˜น์€ ํƒ€์ง€์—์„œ ๋น„์ฐธํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๊ณผ ์ˆ˜์น˜๋ฅผ ๊ฒช์œผ๋ฉด์„œ ์ผํ•ด ์™”๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ž์‹๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋‚˜๋งˆ ๋” ๋‚˜์€ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์‚ด๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌํšŒ์  ์ง€์œ„๊ฐ€ ๋†’์€ ์ง์—…๋“ค์„ ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

       ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์žฅ๋ž˜์˜ ์•„์ด๋“ค๊ณผ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์€ ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์ ธ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜น์‹œ ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ ์กด๊ฒฝ๋ฐ›๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋‚˜ ๋†’์€ ์ˆ˜์ž…์„ ์–ป๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋งŒ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ง์—…๋“ค์„ ์–ป์œผ๋ ค๊ณ  ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ์™„์ „ํžˆ ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ด์ •์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์ผ์ƒ์„ ์˜ํ•™๊ณผ ๋ฒ•์— ๋ฐ”์น  ๊ฐ์˜ค๊ฐ€ ๋œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ง์—…์— ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€์•ผ์ง€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์ƒ๋ช…์„ ์‚ด๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๋ฒ•์„ ์ง€ํ‚ค๋Š” ์ผ์„ ๋ถ€๊ท€์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ˆ„๋ฆฌ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋งŒ ์ถ”๊ตฌํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ง๋„ ์•ˆ ๋˜๋Š” ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ์•„์ฃผ ๋ณ„ ๋ณผ์ผ ์—†๊ณ  ์—ด์ • ์—†๊ณ  ๊ธฐ๊ณ„์ ์ธ ์˜์‚ฌ์™€ ๋ณ€ํ˜ธ์‚ฌ๋“ค์„ ํƒ„์ƒ์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ๊ณ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์„ ํƒ๊ถŒ๋“ค์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•„์ด๋“ค๋กœ ํ•˜์—ฌ๊ธˆ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ธ๋„ํ•ด ์ค˜์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‚ฌํšŒ์— ์กด์žฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถˆ์˜๋ฅผ ์ •์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ, ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ฐฝ์˜์ ์ธ ๋น„์ „์„ ํ˜„์‹คํ™”์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ์ผ, ๋ถˆ์šฐํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋•๋Š” ์ผ, ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์„ ๋ณดํ˜ธํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ ๋“ฑ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ผ๋“ค์ด ์…€ ์ˆ˜ ์—†์ด ๋งŽ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์„ ํƒ๋“ค์€ ์ „ํ˜€ ๊ฑฐ๋ก ๋˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š๊ณ  ์•ผ์‹ฌ ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•œ ์ฒญ๋…„๋“ค์ด ๊ทธ์ € ๋ˆ, ์ง์—…์˜ ๋ช…์˜ˆ, ํ˜น์€ ์‚ฌํšŒ์  ์ง€์œ„๋งŒ์„ ์ค‘์š”์‹œํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์žฅ๋ž˜๋Š” ๋งํ•œ ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋‹ค๋ฆ„์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

       ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์˜ ๋‹ค๋‹ˆ์—˜ ํ•‘ํฌ (Daneil Pink), ์‚ฌ์ด๋ชฌ ์‚ฌ์ด๋„ฅ (Simon Sinek) ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ผ์ง€ ๋ผ๊ตฌ๋‚˜ํƒ„ ์˜์‚ฌ (Dr. Raj Raghunathan)๋Š” ์œ ๋ช…ํ•œ ์ž‘๊ฐ€๋“ค์ธ๋ฐ ๋งŒ์กฑํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ปค๋ฆฌ์–ด๋ž€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ด๊ณ  ์ง์—…์—์„œ ์ง„์ •ํ•œ ํ–‰๋ณต์„ ์ฐพ์œผ๋ ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ์กฐ์‚ฌํ•œ ์ธ๋ฌผ๋“ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ฑ…์—์„œ๋Š” ์ธ๊ฐ„์€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๊ธฐ์ดˆ์ ์ธ ์š•๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งŒ์กฑ๋œ ๋‹ค์Œ์—๋Š” ์ง์—…์—์„œ ์•„๋ž˜์˜ ์š”์†Œ๋“ค์„ ์ฐพ๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•œ ๋ฐ” ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 

1. ์˜๋ฏธ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ธ๊ฐ„๊ด€๊ณ„

2. ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์—…๋ฌด๋Šฅ๋ ฅ, ๊ธฐ์ˆ , ์žฌ๋Šฅ์˜ ๋ฐœ๋‹ฌ

3. ์ง์—… ์•ˆ์—์„œ ๋…๋ฆฝ์ ์ธ ์„ ํƒ์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ž์œ 

4. ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์›๋™๋ ฅ์„ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ ์žˆ๋Š” ํšŒ์‚ฌ์˜ ์‚ฌ๋ช…/๋ชฉ์ 

5. ์ž๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ํšŒ์‚ฌ ์•ˆ์—์„œ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์น˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ.

์‚ฌํšŒ์  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ์žˆ์–ด์„œ ๋˜ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฒƒ์€  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ž๊ธฐ ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ (self-identity)๊ณผ ์ž๊ธฐ ๊ฐœ๋… (self-concept)์ด ํฌ๊ฒŒ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฐ›๋Š”๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2์„ธ๋‚˜ 1.5์„ธ ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ณ„ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ๋“ค์€ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ ์„ฑ์žฅํ•  ๋•Œ ์ฃผ๋กœ ๋ฐฑ์ธ์ด๋‚˜ ํ‘์ธ๋“ค ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ ์†์—์„œ ์†Œ์ˆ˜๋ฏผ์กฑ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ถˆ๊ฐ€ํ”ผํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ์ง‘๋‹จ ๋”ฐ๋Œ๋ฆผ์ด๋‚˜ ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์„ ์ž์ฃผ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ผ๋“ค์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์‹ฌ๊ฐํ•ด์„œ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ๋ฅผ ๊ฒช์€ ์ Š์€์ด๋“ค์€ 30๋Œ€์™€ 40๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋„˜์€ ์„ฑ์ธ์ด ๋˜์–ด๋„ ๊ทธ ์ƒ์ฒ˜๊ฐ€ ๋‚จ์•„์„œ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ๋†€๋ฆผ ๋‹นํ–ˆ๋˜ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋™์–‘์  ์™ธ๋ชจ๋ฅผ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. โ€˜๋™์–‘์ธ’์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์ž๊ธฐ ๊ฐœ๋… ์†์—์„œ ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›๊ณ  ๊ณ ํ†ต์„ ๊ฒช๋Š” ํ˜„์ƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋ฟ๋งŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์˜ ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด์™€ ํ• ๋ฆฌ์šฐ๋“œ์˜ ์˜ํ™”๋“ค์€ ์—ญ์‚ฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ณ„ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ๋“ค์„ ๋œ ๋–จ์–ด์ง„ ์ด๋ฏธ์ง€๋กœ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด ๋†“์€ ์›๋ณธ์ธ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง€๋‚œ 10๋…„๊ฐ„ ์ด ๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š” ์กฐ๊ธˆ์”ฉ ๊ฐœ์„ ๋˜์–ด๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๋™์–‘ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์€ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์˜ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด ์†์—์„œ โ€œ๋‚จ์„ฑ๋ฏธ์™€ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ์ด ๋–จ์–ด์ง€๊ณ  ๋ฆฌ๋”์‹ญ ๊ธฐ์งˆ์ด ๋ถ€์กฑํ•˜๋‹ค”๋ผ๋Š” ํŽธ๊ฒฌ์ด ๊ฐ•ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋™์–‘ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ฃผ๋กœ โ€œ์ด๊ตญ์ ์ธ ๊ฑธํ”„๋ Œ๋“œ๊ฐโ€ ์œผ๋กœ ์ทจ๊ธ‰๋‹นํ•˜๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ณ„ ์•„์ด๋“ค์€ ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „ ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ์˜ํ™” ์†์—์„œ ์ž๊ธฐ์™€ ๋น„์Šทํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ƒ๊ธด ๋™์–‘์ธ ๋กค ๋ชจ๋ธ์„ ์ž˜ ์ฐพ์„ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์š”์ฆ˜์€ ์‹œ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์ ธ์„œ YouTube ๋•๋ถ„์— ๋ฐฉ์†ก๊ตญ์ด๋‚˜ ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „์— ์ œํ•œ๋  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์ „ํ˜€ ์—†์ง€๋งŒ ์ฃผ๋ฅ˜ ๋งค์ฒด์—์„œ๋Š” ์•„์ง๋„ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฉด์—์„œ ๋ถ€์กฑํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์„ ์˜ˆ๋กœ ๋“ค์–ด๋ดค์ง€๋งŒ ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋„ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ๋ฐฉ์†ก์ด๋‚˜ ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „ ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ๋“ค์ด ๋Œ€์ค‘์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฏธ์น˜๋Š” ๋ณด์ด์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์˜ํ–ฅ์ด ์กด์žฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž‘์€ ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด๋ณด์ž๋ฉด ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ์—์„œ ํ”ํžˆ ๋ณด๋Š” ๋ถ€์žฃ์ง‘ ์ฃผ์ธ๊ณต์˜ ํ™”๋ คํ•œ ์ง‘๊ณผ ์˜ท๋“ค์ด ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๊พธ๋ฉฐ์ง„ ์™ธ๋ชจ ๋“ฑ๋„ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋งค์ผ ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ๋ณด๋ฉด์„œ ์‹œ์ฒญ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ž๊ธฐ ๊ฐœ๋…๊ณผ ์ž๊ธฐ ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ์— ์žˆ์–ด์„œ ์–ด๋–ค ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฐ›๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ผ๊นŒ์š”? ๋” ์กฐ์‚ฌํ•  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ด…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

     ์œ„์—์„œ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•œ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ผ๋“ค์„ ํ•˜๋ฃจ์•„์นจ์— ๋ฐ”๊พผ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ถˆ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ์ ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋‘˜๋Ÿฌ์‹ธ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์™€ ๋ฌธํ™”๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๋ฟ๋งŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ํ•ด๋ฅผ ๋ผ์น  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์ด ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋˜ ํ…”๋ ˆ๋น„์ „ ์†์˜ ๊ด‘๊ณ ๊ฐ€ ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋˜ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ž ๋งˆ์Œ์†์—์„œ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐ•ํ•œ ๋‚ด์  ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด๋‚ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ์  ์ฑ…์ž„์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋˜ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋…ํŠนํ•˜๊ณ  ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ด๊ณ  ์†Œ์ค‘ํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ์‹ ๋…์„ ์žƒ์ง€ ์•Š๊ฒŒ ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌผ๋ก  ์ด๊ฑด ์‰ฝ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ•œ ๋‚˜๋ผ์˜ ๊ตญ๋ฏผ์œผ๋กœ์„œ๋‚˜ ํ•œ ํšŒ์‚ฌ์˜ ์ผ์›์œผ๋กœ์„œ ๊ทธ ์กฐ์ง์˜ ์šธํƒ€๋ฆฌ ์•ˆ์— ์กด์žฌํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ์••๋ฐ•๊ณผ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฐ›์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ช…์‹ฌํ•˜์…”์•ผ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์‚ฌํšŒ์  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์„ ์ง€๋ฐฐํ•˜๋Š” โ€œ์ง€๋ฐฐ์ธต”์— ์žˆ๋Š” ์ •์น˜์ธ๋“ค์ด๋‚˜ ๋งค์Šค ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด์˜ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋“ค, ์˜คํ”ผ๋‹ˆ์–ธ ๋ฆฌ๋”๋“ค, ํ˜น์€ ์†Œ์…œ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด ์ธํ”Œ๋ฃจ์–ธ์„œ๋“ค์€ ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ์ € ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‰๋ฒ”ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ์ •์‹  ๊ฑด๊ฐ• ๋”ฐ์œ„๋Š” ๋ณ„๋กœ ๊ฐœ์˜์น˜ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์ž๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์ž๋ฆฌ ์žก๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ด€์„ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ณ  ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ํก์ˆ˜ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋” ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์˜ ์ธ๊ตฌ ์ ˆ๋ฐ˜์ด ๋™์–‘์ธ ๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋‚จ์„ฑ๋ฏธ์™€ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ์ด ๋ถ€์กฑํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ๋Š”๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด๋„ ์ง„์งœ๋กœ ๋™์–‘์ธ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์ด ์ž๊ธฐ ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์œผ๋ฉด ์•ˆ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋งˆ๋ฌด๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ „์— ํ•œ๊ตญ์ ์ธ ๋ฌธํ™”์˜ ์žฅ์ ๋“ค์„ ๋” ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ง€๊ธˆ๊นŒ์ง€ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•œ ๋ฐ”๋กœ๋Š” ํ•œ๊ตญ์ ์ธ ์‚ฌ์ƒ ์•ˆ์— ์ •์‹ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•์— ํ•ด๋กœ์šด ๋ถ€๋ถ„๋“ค์ด ์žˆ์–ด ๋น„ํŒ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ด์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜์œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•œ๊ตญ์€ ๊ธฐ๋‚˜๊ธด ์„ธ์›”์˜ ํˆฌ์Ÿ์„ ์ด๊ฒจ์˜จ ๊นŠ์€ ์—ญ์‚ฌ์™€ ์ฒ ํ•™, ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์žฌ์‚ฐ, ์žฌ๋Šฅ, ๊ธฐ์ˆ , ์šฉ๊ธฐ, ์˜ˆ์ˆ ์„ฑ ๋“ฑ์„ ๊ฒธ๋น„ํ•œ ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์˜ ๋‚˜๋ผ์ž„์ด ํ‹€๋ฆผ์—†๊ณ  ์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚  ์˜จ ์„ธ๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ํ•œ๊ตญ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋‚˜๋ผ์— ์—ด๊ด‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์žฅ๋ž˜์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ๋ฏผ๊ตญ์„ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ค๋ ค๋ฉด ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์žฅ์ ๋“ค์„ ์žŠ์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ ์ž๋ถ€์‹ฌ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋˜ ํ˜„๋Œ€์‚ฌํšŒ ์•ˆ์—์„œ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋ฅผ ์ผ์œผํ‚ค๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์š”์†Œ๋“ค์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์ •ํ™•ํžˆ ํŒŒ์•…ํ•˜์—ฌ ์™ธ๋ฉดํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ถ€์ •ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ํ™•์‹คํžˆ ์ง์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ 2019๋…„์— ๋ณด๋„๋œ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ๊ฐ๊ตญ์˜ ์ž์‚ด๋ฅ ์„ ์ •๋ฆฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋‚˜๋ผ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๊ธฐํ›„, ์ •์น˜์  ํ˜น์€ ๊ฒฝ์ œ์  ์ƒํ™ฉ ๋“ฑ์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด๋‚˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ด ์ž์‚ด๋ฅ ์˜ ํ†ต๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ๋ฌธํ™”์ ์ธ ์š”์ธ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋งŒ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ ํŒ๋‹จํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ๋ฐฉ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ด์œ ๋“ค ํ•˜๋‚˜ํ•˜๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋ชจ๋‘ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ด ์ฑ…์—์„œ ๋‹ค ๋‹ค๋ฃจ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ถˆ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ฐ˜๋“œ์‹œ ์žฅ๋ž˜์—๋Š” ์ธ๋ฅ˜๊ฐ€ ์ด ์ง„์‹ค์„ ํŒŒํ•ด์ณ ๋‚˜๊ฐ€์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋‚˜๋ผ๋“ค์— ๋น„ํ•ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋‚ฎ์€ ์ž์‚ด๋ฅ ์„ ๋ณด์ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚˜๋ผ๋“ค์€ ์•„๋ž˜์™€ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:

  • ๋ฐ”๋ฒ ์ด๋„์Šค
  • ์ž๋ฉ”์ด์นด
  • ๋ชฐ๋””๋ธŒ
  • ํŒŒํ‚ค์Šคํƒ„
  • ๋ชจ๋กœ์ฝ”
  • ํ•„๋ฆฌํ•€

๋ฐ˜๋Œ€๋กœ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋†’์€ ์ž์‚ด๋ฅ ์„ ๋ณด์ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚˜๋ผ๋“ค์€ ์•„๋ž˜์™€ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:

  • ๋ฆฌํˆฌ์•„๋‹ˆ์•„
  • ๊ฐ€์ด์•„๋‚˜
  • ์ˆ˜๋ฆฌ๋‚จ
  • ํ•œ๊ตญ
  • ์ผ๋ณธ

(์ถœ์ฒ˜: 2019๋…„ World Population Review ๋‰ด์Šค)

Chapter 13: The Current State of Depression Treatment and Understanding

Excerpt from “Diaries of My Older Sister”

When it comes to accurately defining the causes of major depression, many questions still remain unanswered today. While researching this topic, I had the chance to interview Dr. Chad Ebesutani, a leading clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. from UCLA and founder and director of the Seoul Counseling Center in South Korea. Following are excerpts from our conversation. 

Dr. Ebesutani: โ€œIf I were to grade the current level of mental health treatment for depression in the world, I would give it a C. We have figured some things out, but definitely in need of improvement. Iโ€™m not satisfied with the current state of things at all. Thereโ€™s so much we can do and I know we can do more. I donโ€™t want to blame psychologistsโ€”as I understand the challenge of treating complex thingsโ€”but we have yet to really understand what works [for depression] and how to communicate what works to others. 

At the end of the day, I believe that effectively treating depression involves starting with looking at what the individual can do first. In this way, everyone can be part of the solution. Otherwise, it really is a downward spiralโ€”you start feeling down, you donโ€™t do anything, you feel even more down so you donโ€™t meet anybody. Itโ€™s hard to pick yourself up after that [spiral].โ€

Dr. Ebesutani states that depression is a multifaceted problem that often cannot be addressed by medication alone, but needs more of an integrated, comprehensive approach. He also sees the need to integrate โ€œcognitive behavior psychotherapyโ€ (which is more of a science and technique-oriented) with the warmer and more emotionally-oriented โ€œclient-centeredโ€ approaches. 

Dr. Ebesutaniโ€™s opinions rang true to my own experiences as well. Most people did not challenge the over-simplistic explanation from Katieโ€™s psychiatrist that he wasnโ€™t exactly sure what had led to Katieโ€™s suicidal depression. After all, Katie had been going through weekly therapy sessions and prescribed antidepressant medication by the clinic. When I started experiencing depression myself in college and showed up at the university health clinic in desperation, I also got a sense of what Katie might have experienced. I felt like a nameless object in a factory queue that just needed another quick-and-easy fix so that I could make room for the next person in line. I waited my turn in a quiet lobby with other grim-looking students and then received a 45-minute conversational evaluation in a private room where I was told to talk about my biggest problems to a complete stranger who told me she was a social worker. After I was done trying to poorly articulate my internal struggles and rumination to this person in 45 minutes, she simply told me that I should be prescribed SSRI medication and come back next week if things donโ€™t improve by then. To be honest, it was an incredibly discouraging and disappointing experience.

Fast-forward to today, we still have yet to see any noticeable paradigm shifts for diagnosing or curing depression. One of the reasons I wrote this book is to bring more awareness to the fact that things are clearly not working very well with the status quo. If the current system of psychiatry and psychotherapy were enough to handle this global, multifacted problem, we wouldnโ€™t be seeing the continuing rise of depression and suicide rates today. I am not saying that we should discontinue trusting in psychiatrists altogether; we can all benefit immensely from their expertise and experience. To be honest, they all have an incredibly tough job. When you compare psychology to โ€œobservableโ€ sciences like chemistry, biology or physics, we must remember that we still have no reliable way to see into the โ€œblack boxโ€ of the brain and deduce which thought patterns are exactly leading to which neural activity. No objective tests or measurable metrics are currently available for doctors to deterministically โ€œtestโ€ for depression, like we can test blood samples, urine samples or heart rate for detecting various diseases. This may be one of the biggest reasons psychology continues to rely on subjective patient feedback and conversational evaluations. Psychologists ask questions to their patients and check to see if they fit the criteria for depression outlined in a book called the DSM, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, published by the American Psychiatric Association. 

However, thereโ€™s so much more we can do right now as individuals and a collective community to improve our understanding of depression and the general level of treatment at large, instead of chalking everything up to an unexplainable โ€œchemical imbalance in the brainโ€ that only doctors and prescription medicine can solve. In fact, many professional psychiatrists, psychologists and pharmaceutical companies today may be just as confused as the rest of us about the underlying causes of clinical depression. Dr. Daniel Carlat, a renowned clinical professor of psychiatry at Tufts University School of Medicine, covered this very topic in his 2010 book, Unhinged: The Trouble with Psychiatry – A Doctor’s Revelations about a Profession in Crisis.  Dr. Carlat emphasizes that the current psychiatric community places undue emphasis on psychopharmacology (the study of the use of medications in treating mental disorders) while convincing ourselves that we now have cures for mental illnesses โ€œwhen in fact we know so little about the underlying neurobiology of their causes that our treatments are often a series of trials and errors. โ€[17]

Itโ€™s not all bad news, however. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT has proven to be very effective and promising for treating depression in the psychotherapy community. CBT is intriguing because it focuses on how your thoughts and feelings lead to behavioral patterns, and teaches you to notice and change your negative habitual patterns by challenging your own thoughts, similar to what we discussed in the first section. As disappointed as I was in Katieโ€™s campus psychiatrist, I do still have a lot of hope and respect for doctors and therapists out there who genuinely care about their patients, continue to create groundbreaking research and are skilled in different forms of therapy such as CBT. Based on my experiences, I can definitely say with confidence that not all psychiatrists, psychologists and psychotherapists are โ€œcreated equal.โ€ Some are better than others, by a mile. Some are absolutely terrible and care more about money than their patients. 

Furthermore, researchers and academics are constantly improving their understanding of clinical depression all over the world. For example, in 2015, the PNAS scientific journal published that meditating, exercising and spending time in nature are highly effective in preventing rumination and overactivity in the brain.[18] According to the study, participants who went on a 90-min walk through nature reported lower levels of rumination and showed reduced neural activity in an area of the brain linked to risk of mental illness compared with those who walked through an urban environment. Studies also show that maintaining a nutrient-rich diet, journaling about emotions, engaging in art/music therapy, exposing yourself daily to sunlight and spending time to bond with others all help in fighting depression by helping you regain a balanced level of neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. As much as I want to expand on every single one of those important findings, thereโ€™s already plenty of great literature out there on each of those topics so I encourage you to read them (some of them are below). If I were to highlight three topics in particular, it would be nutrition, physical exercise and social support. Speaking as someone whoโ€™s experienced and recovered from major depression before, understanding and improving those three aspects were major game changers for my own recovery. 

Hereโ€™s a short list of great books that I most recommend on the topic of defeating depression, handling rumination and understanding our brain:

  • Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problems by Daniel G. Amen 
  • Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns.
  • The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression without Drugs by Stephen S. Ilardi 
  • How God Changes Your Brain: Breakthrough Findings from a Leading Neuroscientist by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman 
  • Stress-Proof: The Scientific Solution to Protect Your Brain and Body–and Be More Resilient Every Day by Mithu Storoni 
  • Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School by John Medina
  • How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie 

Although we are still currently unable to pinpoint the exact causes of depression today, if we were to integrate the efforts of experienced healthcare professionals and researchers with our own individual efforts, depression may be more effectively understood and treated all over the world. As it stands now, thereโ€™s no denying that thereโ€™s so much more we need to discover about how depression works. 

The following is the rest of my interview with Dr. Ebesutani. We talked about the impact of culture, history and economics on the depression and suicide epidemic in South Korea.

Terry: โ€œDr. Ebesutani, what do you think about South Koreaโ€™s unique relationship with depression today?โ€ 

Dr. Ebesutani: โ€œThere seems to be two worlds trying to integrate. New Korea & Old Korea. Parents & Children. East & West. Modern & Traditional. They are trying to integrate and they donโ€™t know how. And I believe this is causing a lot of pain in Korea, as there is a lack of understanding of each other leading to social conflict. 

Another factor affecting depression in Korea, I think, is that society is still built upon rigid structures, hierarchies and order. While these things do have their merit and can help societies, such as helping to stabilize systems, I believe they are hard on individuals. In rigid systems, you often need to give up choice and your desire to pursue what is individually meaningful to you. There’s pros and cons with that. But I do believe that overly rigid hierarchies, order, and structures can harm individuals.

The third factor that I see affecting depression in Korea are, ironically, the close-knit relationships here. Koreans value connecting with each other and Korea is a very close-knit society. Koreans worry a lot about each other. And they genuinely care about each other. The general Korean mindset seems to be: โ€œI genuinely care about you. We are connected and I need to take care of you.โ€ For example, thereโ€™s frequent mixing of money, helping each other financially through family, relatives and friends. People also make comments to each other on personal matters, mostly out of concern. While this can be positive, I do see the negative side effects of being too closely intertwined in relationships. Things get messy, and people get hurt. There’s a lot of unwanted intrusion into peoples’ lives.โ€ 

Terry: โ€œWhat do you think about the impact of South Korean parent-child relationships on their mental health?โ€ 

Dr. Ebesutani: โ€œThis is a complicated and difficult question to answer. My opinion is this.  When Koreans recovered from the IMF crisis, they sacrificed their individual desires and pooled money and efforts together to keep the country alive. Itโ€™s definitely related to the Korean cultureโ€”if you want to do something great, you need others and sacrifice yourself to do something as a group. Korea has proven that. Koreans are willing to sacrifice themselves for their family and their country like they did for IMF, and parents do the same for their children. Some influences include Confucianism, and the ideas of group harmony over individual desires. 

I work with lots of international Korean students who studied abroad and have become westernized. They definitely do not see the same world as their parents. Korean parents tend to have high standards and also want their children to try hard to live a better life than their own because they had to make many hard sacrifices in the past. So they force their children to live a “better” life that they think they should live.

Children are thus often criticized and rarely praised, disciplining them often in order to keep their children achieving more and more, which leads to long-term stress, anger and frustration in their relationships. Korean children become angry at their parents and the world. The parentsโ€™ perspective is that they are sacrificing so much for their children and their family so their children should sacrifice to meet their demands as well to be able to live a better life. But that generational integration is not happening very well. We need to find ways to better support that.โ€ 

I sincerely thank Dr. Ebesutani again for his gracious support. I was deeply moved by his willingness to accept my request for an interview out of his busy schedule and his words of encouragement for me to continue writing this book. 

Chapter 11: Childhood Conditioning

Excerpt from “Diaries of My Older Sister”

The way your mind operates is largely conditioned by your past experiences as a child, when your brain was the most susceptible to influence and soaking up ideas like a sponge. A habit you developed at 7 years old can stay with you even at 30 years old. Having a near-death experience in a swimming pool when you are a kid can traumatize you for life and make you avoid water as a full-grown adult. Thatโ€™s why looking back at the influences you received from your parents (and other authority figures in your childhood environment) may be crucial to understanding your current mentality. They impacted your brain and your mindโ€™s stories in a major way through childhood conditioning.ย 

For example, in Asian cultures, filial piety or being respectful and obedient towards elders is the main virtue that parents teach their children. Not that thereโ€™s anything inherently wrong with filial piety, but the darker side of this cultural norm comes to the fore when the elders start abusing their power to shame children into โ€œproperโ€ conduct. Pressure, punishment and guilt trips are the emotional tools often used by Asian parents to sculpt high-performing, over-achieving sons and daughters. Their lessons usually go along the lines of โ€œBring honor to your family through obedience and excellence. If you fail, you will bring dishonor. If you disobey, you will be punished. Succeeding is the only way to make us happy.โ€ We are not talking treats for getting an A+ on an exam; itโ€™s physical punishment over scoring anything less than an A or being grounded for months if you get caught hanging out with your boyfriend instead of studying. 

Back in the 90s, I remember being in some after-school program in Seoul where a Korean teacher in her early 30s literally beat my hands with the hard end of a wooden broom to discipline me whenever I incorrectly answered my math problems. Although hitting students is no longer allowed in South Korea, thatโ€™s just one example of an Asian culture that expects children to fear rules and elders to ingrain blind obedience toward authority in children. โ€œYou answered this algebra problem wrong? How could you be so stupid? Hereโ€™s some pain to make sure you donโ€™t get it wrong again. Iโ€™m hitting you for your own good.โ€ How thoughtful. 

I never questioned such Asian values growing up because I had internalized them as the โ€œnormal wayโ€ of living. Until my 20s, I seldom challenged my elders or parents and thought that obeying them and making them happy was always the โ€œrightโ€ thing to do. Now that Iโ€™ve spent the last 20 years in the U.S., I feel very differently about those beliefs. Itโ€™s up to us to apply our learned thought patterns to situations only if they are relevant, and then discard them when they are not. It took me a very long time to break out of that traditional mold and to be able to look at my elders and parents objectively. You need to determine who and what they are, and especially, what their limitations are. 

Iโ€™m not saying that you should always disobey your parents and elders either. Of course thereโ€™s several situations where itโ€™s best to follow their advice. However, sooner or later, you must learn how to do your own thinking. And when you do become a mature adult capable of making your own decisions, your parents whoโ€™ve raised you and led your decisions when you were a child are no longer the right people to continue forcing you in a certain direction. Like a pair of childrenโ€™s shoes that no longer fit you because youโ€™ve outgrown them, the childhood conditioning and rules set by your parents when you were just a kid need to be discarded as well. If our goal is to live a satisfying life as mature adults capable of making our own decisions, we cannot allow our parents or elders to order us around without questioning themโ€”especially when the rules they have been asking you to blindly obey are based on their own personal limitations, biases and the imperfect childhood conditioning they inherited themselves. Then we would just be repeating the cycle. Somebody has to notice such cycles and stop them from repeating. 

The irony is that parents will continue to try to tell you what to do and how to live your life because they will always see their little baby when they look at you, often in the genuine belief that they know better than you. Your job as an independent adult is to filter their advice. The helpful advice stay. Ignore the rest. And itโ€™s up to you to decide which is which. No more blind obedience or listening to them more than you listen to yourself. Look at them objectively. Is there a chance that their advice and comments are coming from their own inherited ideas of whatโ€™s right and wrong? 

Another example of what Asian cultures need to address is our story about how success is limited to a few prestigious professions based on social status and money. That is essentially a story fabricated by the previous generations and relayed to us through our parents and grandparents. And itโ€™s completely understandable. The very first generations of Asian immigrants had almost zero career options in America and other countries abroad, except for manual labor or businesses like restaurants, laundromats and nail salons. Of course they wanted better lives for their children, and we cannot blame them for that. A life of stable income with a respected job title and high level of education is very different compared to a painful life of poverty with a job where nobody treats you with respect. Many of my Korean uncles and aunts suffered through that lower-class life and made sure to remind me often to learn from their hardship and study hard.

But the world is changing faster today than ever before. There are new occupations now that have more responsibility and future potential than the traditional paths that were held sacred before. Thereโ€™s entrepreneurs, artists and innovators who are creating extraordinary value for the people around them while being completely unbound by a job title. In this age of rapid change and innovation, the best blueprint for success may not be the one that was fixed 50 years ago by our parents and grandparents. We are the ones who must adapt to and steer the world. We have to change it, so we can make it better than the world in which our parents lived before, not succeed solely based on their old rules. 

Iโ€™m not advocating that you quit med school, law school, graduate program or whatever career path you are actively involved in. If itโ€™s a path that motivates you to live a purpose-driven life, then by all means, go study what inspires you and throw yourself 100% into your profession. I am advocating however that the decision to choose your life path come from you, and you only. And if that decision turns out to be a bad fit for you, then you have every right and responsibility to change your course at any point in your life. Granted, you must give enough time to a chosen career path before you make a major switch; otherwise you will be wasting time and money jumping back and forth between different paths, never deciding on anything in particular. But limiting yourself to a few career choices, just because of your parentsโ€™ wishes, I feel is completely illogical. You must choose for yourself and find out for yourself what is best for you. 

I do want to emphasize one thing: Our parents are not the problem. Thatโ€™s not what Iโ€™m trying to say. I owe so much to both my parents. My mother is a strong single mother who raised my sister and me as the sole breadwinner of the family in a foreign country. We do have to recognize that our parents are not perfect, but we must still love, forgive and respect them. They did their best with whatever they knew and had at the time. Challenging the mindset of our community and developing a healthy mindset has less to do with disobeying our parents and more to do with identifying and fighting for whatโ€™s best for everyone. Be aware that faulty stories can seep into your mind through your childhood influences from your parents and family members, but do not blame them needlessly. Now that we recognize those influences as adults, itโ€™s time to let go of past issues and move toward a better direction together. 

If you are currently a college or high school student whoโ€™s grown up with the traditional Asian mindset and are afraid of challenging your parents, I urge you to start learning how to think for yourself. It doesnโ€™t mean disobey your parents every chance you get, but it does mean you start developing your own internal compass for how you want to navigate your own life. At the end of the day, if you let anybody else including your parents dictate your life, the one who will suffer the most, if they turn out to be wrong, is you. If you do not start this process of thinking for yourself early on, then you may end up as a full-grown adult whoโ€™s completely directionless while still toiling away in the same hamster wheel set up by your parents who may no longer be alive. By taking control of your own life decisions, you can start learning today how to be more responsible. Itโ€™s scary but liberating at the same time. If you are wrong, itโ€™s on you. And if you are right, thatโ€™s on you as well. 

Rather than just blindly assuming that your parents are the best equipped to make your career decisions, start by choosing your own major and classes. Rely on mentors and peers around you to gather the most accurate information; I even encourage you to find different mentors for different reasons. For example, find a mentor you can rely on for career advice, and then find another mentor for relationship advice. The possibilities are endless if you keep your eyes open. Base your decisions on facts, latest information and your personal strengths and then be ready to experiment and change course if something doesnโ€™t feel like the right fit. When it comes to choosing a career path, research what kind of topics you are naturally curious about learning, what kind of problems you are naturally good at solving, what kind of mentors you would like to learn from and what kind of projects inspire you. 

Donโ€™t be discouraged because you canโ€™t seem to figure out everything on your own right away. You are not supposed to. Take your time, learn from trial and error and experiment again and again while asking for mentorship from others. You will get to where you want to be in small steps. Trust the process and work patiently on figuring out your unique self-potential.  

(Above is a venn diagram of a model to find your career โ€œhappy place.โ€ It highlights the intersection of the three overlapping circles: the problems and needs of the world, things that inspire and empower you (i.e., your passions and inspirations), and your skill sets (i.e. your personal talents). This was created by Scott McGregor, one of my professional mentors from Cisco Systems in North Carolina) 

I also donโ€™t recommend you blindly follow the โ€œfollow your passionโ€ advice, which is often misunderstood by people who think that following their passion allows them to do whatever they want without thinking about the consequences, like impulsively setting up a dessert shop in a town thatโ€™s already saturated with dessert options, or trying to make a living as an exotic dancer in a town that could care less about exotic dancing. You wanting to do what makes you happy is important, but you must be willing to put in the effort necessary to ensure that you are providing something valuable to the people around you and endure the consequences when things donโ€™t turn out to be as rosy as you initially imagined. In business terms, you must achieve the right โ€œproduct-market fitโ€ with the world around you. Whatever service, product or value you want to offer to the world to make an impact, you must gauge its potential by how well you will be able to serve the people in that community as well as how much demand it will generate. A better advice in my opinion may be โ€œfollow your passion responsibly under a few conditions.โ€ We might want to encourage the next generation to follow their passions and pursue what they are inspired by as long as (and this caveat is crucial) they also satisfy certain criteria similar to below: 

  1. Stand on your own two feet while following your passion. Donโ€™t completely rely on other people, such as your parents, to carry your financial burden during the pursuit of your dreams. 
  2. Be mature enough to persevere for years to make your dream come true and accept failure when it doesnโ€™t.
  3. Make sure that the success of your passion actually results in providing concrete value to the community around you. 

Lastly, I want to mention that a degree from an Ivy League university is not always synonymous with lifelong success, like Asian parents often believe. In fact, in his book David and Goliath, Malcolm Gladwell specifically mentions the dangers of the โ€œsmall fish in a big pondโ€ scenario where being in an environment full of people seemingly more accomplished than yourself can actually make you less motivated to try your best due to relative deprivation and feelings of inferiority. We have more than enough examples in history where a person from humble origins ended up becoming the best, most highly regarded leader of his or her respective discipline, even though they didnโ€™t have the most prestigious academic background (Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs come to mind). The typical Asian parentsโ€™ focus on an Ivy League education is overhyped and disproportionate compared to their lack of focus in teaching children how to think independently and outside the boxโ€”the very qualities that are essential for future leadership, creativity and imagination. And it was Albert Einstein who said, โ€œthe true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.โ€

What Creates Our Mind’s Stories – Our Brain

[Excerpt from book Diaries of My Older Sister]

II: What Creates Our Mindโ€™s Stories 

In this section, we cover the myriad of factors that may be the origin of our mindโ€™s stories and obsessive rumination. We may need to dig deeper into the intersection of neuroscience, biology, psychology, cultural influences, childhood experiences and more.

Chapter 7: Our Brain (Part I) 

The human brain is an incredible tool for performing all kinds of complex activities, such as planning for the future, remembering the past, playing a musical instrument, painting, dancing, catching a football in the touchdown zone and a million more. But human evolution seems to have failed in preparing us for when our brain starts malfunctioning from all this complexity, for example, in the form of ruminating or obsessive thinking. Rumination may essentially be a disease of the overactive mind. In this case, our most advanced asset, the brain, is harming us instead of helping us in our daily lives. 

Studies show that genes and family history are strong predictors of depression. Some of us may be born with a genetic predisposition that puts us at a higher risk for major depression later in life. Thereโ€™s a twofold to threefold increase in lifetime risk of developing major depression among first-degree relatives or anyone with a sibling or parent with depression.[11] I can attest to this through my own family history; not only did my sister and I experience major depression, but so did many relatives from both my motherโ€™s and fatherโ€™s side of the family. We cannot deny the significance of genetic โ€œcards we are dealtโ€ at birth when it comes to the risk of developing depression.  

However, that doesnโ€™t mean that we should label depression as a result of some genetic defect or a random malfunctioning of the brain that we have no control over. My belief is that a large percentage of individuals who experience major depression or suicidal ideation in recent times are not born with a fundamental defect in their neurochemistry that causes depression with no apparent reason at all. Granted, this is difficult to prove because depression is another case of the โ€œNature versus Nurture,โ€ โ€œChicken or the eggโ€ debate. How can we be sure if depression is resulting from the direct experiences of a personโ€™s life or from their fixed genetic destiny? Was the personโ€™s brain impacted by some external event that ended up causing depression or was the person innately born with the risk of developing depression? Although more conclusive studies are needed, it may be safe to assume that thereโ€™s a complex interdependence between genes and environment. There may be a specific subcategory of depression where genes play a part in making us more susceptible to depression, and then the actual experiences during a personโ€™s life may trigger that susceptibility, causing symptoms of major depression to surface as a result. 

Then again, not all cases of depression or suicidal ideation may follow this pattern. Even if the surface-level symptoms are the same across two different patients of depression (such as a loss of interest in daily activities, a change in eating or sleeping patterns, fatigue, a lack of motivation, difficulty concentrating, etc.), a clear distinction has to be made between Patient A who may have recently suffered the loss of her entire family in a car accident, and Patient B who has no history of trauma or recent loss but instead has been suffering from years of obsessive rumination. It may not be far-fetched to say that a major portion of depression in recent times fits into this latter category. Some of us might have always carried the โ€œdormant potentialโ€ for depression in our lives, and that potential may become awakened as a result of some stressful life event that we face. This is also why I believe that people who suffer from depression should not be judged as โ€œweakโ€ or โ€œdeficient.โ€ There may be a complicated mix of factors at play that may or may not trigger a person to fall into a depressed state that has nothing to do with the personโ€™s mental strength or fortitude. I think these reasons are what makes depression so confusing and difficult to understand or prevent. The actual trigger of depression for one group of people might be due to one similar set of reasons, but for some people, it might due to completely different, unrelated reasons. 

For the subset of depression that I referred to as the โ€œdormant potentialโ€ category, in which I include myself and Katie, it might be possible that some of us are naturally born with an abnormally high sensitivity to certain triggers that could lead to an overactivity of the brain. Some people simply knock this off as an โ€œover-sensitive personalityโ€; I personally compare this condition to allergies. Like a person whose physical immune system reacts hyper-sensitively to pollen or other allergens, a person born with a rumination-prone brain might be suffering from an over-sensitive mental reaction system that manifests itself in the form of obsessive, repetitive thoughts in response to stressful emotions, social situations or life events. And those stressful thought patterns may sound very much like the different examples we covered in the first section: self-loathing, regret, comparison, catastrophizing, self-judgment, labeling and more. 

I would like to mention that I detest the commonly used โ€œchemical imbalance in the brainโ€ explanation of depression. Yes, there may be a neurochemical imbalance in people who are showing symptoms of depression, but the real question is, why did that imbalance arise in the first place? Because depending on the particular individual, the answer to that question may vary greatly even if the symptom cluster and affected neurotransmitter levels might look similar. And unless we answer that question of why, we will always end up treating the brain as a black box that we are unable to crack, while resorting to surface-level solutions that treat the symptoms alone. 

Like we discussed before, the imbalance might have been caused by a laundry list of different reasons, perhaps something biological or over time by some other external factors. A doctor saying that a person is depressed because of a chemical imbalance in the brain is almost like a car mechanic telling you that your car is broken because there is something wrong with the engine, and then not telling you anything else. Okay, can anybody tell us how and why the car engine ended up that way so that we can prevent the car from breaking down again, so that we are not at the complete mercy of this random disaster? If the answer is no, then it puts more responsibility back on us. We donโ€™t have to give up all our power and potential as individuals to try to understand what might have gone wrong with our own brains. And then we can work together to find the why instead of jumping at band-aid solutions. 

Articles published by the Harvard Health Publishing of the Harvard Medical School echo the sentiments that โ€œthe onset of depression is more complex than a brain chemical imbalanceโ€ and โ€œ[that] figure of speech doesn’t capture how complex the disease is.โ€ Research suggests that rather, โ€œthere are many possible causes of depression, including faulty mood regulation by the brain, genetic vulnerability, stressful life events, medications, and medical problems. […] Several of these forces interact to bring on depression.โ€ [12] So if depression turns out to be much more complex than just a biological complication, like many of us suspect, how can we do a better job of discovering the true causes behind the curtain? Is the existing system that heavily relies on medication going to help us discover the root causes of this issue, or are we just sweeping much bigger issues under the rug?  

I would like to emphasize that I do not claim to understand all the different subsets or variations of depression. I assume that this is a very specific type of depression that Iโ€™ve been focusing on throughout this book, the type that Katie and I experienced. For example, all the mindfulness tips or cognitive behavioral tips in the world may not be able to help a person who was born with a severe neurochemical imbalance that only medication can address or has experienced a physical trauma to the brain thatโ€™s dramatically altered his physiology. Every individualโ€™s explanation for depression may be different in that way, and therefore, we cannot rely on a single, static answer for every episode of depression (although general patterns may exist depending on the cause). That is why Dr. Daniel Amen, a renowned author of the book Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, talks about the importance of using visual neuroimaging techniques and brain scans to see and pinpoint what kind of electrical activity might be actually occurring inside a depressed personโ€™s brain instead of trying to guess their psychological condition through conversational evaluations. He makes the valid point that undiagnosed brain injuries or physiological issues inside the brain can lead to symptoms of mental illnesses, and using these visual means can help us rule out โ€œbiologicalโ€ factors that might be causing psychological problems, and recognize general patterns within the brain. Generally speaking, any advanced technology that allows us to unravel the black box of the human brain by giving us additional qualitative or quantitative data points may help us significantly improve our understanding and diagnosis of depression.  

All in all, I strongly disagree with the school of thought that it is some โ€œfaulty geneโ€ that causes depression or the fault of some weak character. Instead, the answer may be far more complicated. For example, studies indicate a possible correlation between high creativity (as well as IQ) and elevated risk for mood disorders and depression, hinting that the brainโ€™s capacity for depression and creativity may be linked.[13] This is not a surprising hypothesis, considering that some of the brilliant minds in history, such as Vincent Van Gogh, John Nash, Abraham Lincoln, Beethoven, Kafka and Freud, were presumed to have suffered from mental illnesses. My belief (shared by many others) is that the same parts of the brain that cause excessive rumination are also closely linked to the areas responsible for creativity, memory, empathy, focus and problem-solving. And it may be up to us to channel our brainโ€™s focus toward the right direction so that we are able to use it for constructive creativity and empathy rather than self-destructive rumination. Yes, the downside of a depression-prone brain is a high sensitivity to stressful stimuli that can tip you into mental suffering. However, we can learn to embrace the sensitivities of our brain totally, and understand how to coexist with them.